It could be that you’re planning to get married or already happily married, it’s important to know the ten things of a successful marriage. While no two relationships are the same, there are always common themes that keep marriages healthy and happy, and knowing these ten elements will help you focus on building and strengthening your own marriage. They are explained below:
This is what I believe: The first element of a happy and successful marriage is purpose.
The two most important questions you will ever ask yourself are, “Does my life have a purpose?” and “Is my marriage just existing, or is it also advancing a great purpose?”
When a couple loses their sense of purpose they drift apart, become dissatisfied with each other, and oftentimes seek other relationships hoping to feel the sense of closeness and connection that comes with having a shared vision.
If you are single and looking for someone to marry, make sure that person shares your purpose in life. I have known many couples who married for love but didn’t share any goals or vision for the future, only to be left feeling lonely and unfulfilled because they weren’t moving toward anything together.
Most long-term marriages are built on similar values, beliefs, and purposes in life. For example, if you both want to raise great kids who will one day make a positive impact on the world, then that is something worth fighting for together. If one person wants to raise kids who will one day make an impact on the world while the other person wants to raise kids who will simply be happy, then there is bound to be conflict down the road.
It’s not just the little things like bringing home flowers or taking out the trash, it’s much more.
In other words, if you want to be able to listen to others and hear what they are saying, you need to be generous. You have to give them the right to make mistakes, the right to be wrong, and the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. And you have to give them time.
Being generous with time is very important. If you are in a rush all the time, you will not have enough time to listen. You need time for people and their problems. You can’t just say, “I don’t have time.” If you really love someone, you find the time!
Generosity is the first thing because if you don’t have that, you won’t have an authentic or humble relationship. You might think that the most important thing in a relationship is communication. It’s not. The most important thing is generosity. If you assume the other person is doing their best, you will be generous in your opinions of them; and if you don’t feel the need to be constantly on your guard, you will be open and authentic yourself.
If you are generous with your partner, they are more likely to be authentic with you; and then, with luck, whatever flaws they have will seem less significant than their virtues. This may require some suspension of disbelief at times, but so does reading a novel you enjoy: nobody likes every single one of the characters in War and Peace. So long as there are enough good things about someone to outweigh the things that annoy us (and usually there are), we should give them our loyalty–not grudgingly or hesitantly, but generously.
One of the most fundamental aspects of a happy marriage is trust. If you can’t trust your partner, then there is no foundation for a lasting relationship. A good way to build trust is by telling the truth and keeping promises.
If you want to keep your spouse from cheating, you need to provide them with the tools they need to make them feel loved and appreciated. It’s important not to take advantage of their love for you. If you are not faithful in your relationship, how can you expect them to be?
Trust is important in a relationship because it builds a bond between two people who love each other enough to commit to each other. If there is no trust in the relationship, then one partner will feel like they are being taken advantage of or that they are not getting what they deserve out of the relationship. When there is no trust, it creates tension and conflict in the relationship which can lead to divorce or even murder.
The key to building trust in a relationship is honesty and communication. This means that when something happens that makes one partner uncomfortable, it should be discussed openly between both partners so that both parties know what occurred and how to prevent it from happening again in the future.