12 Secret Signs He is Desperate to Get Married

He talks about his kids as if they already exist, the big house with the backyard as if it’s already been bought.

His future is clear as day to him, and he slips these into conversations with you because he wants that same future to be clear as day to you as well.

A potential future that is so obviously amazingly, you’d have to be stupid to reject it.

7) He Wants to be Your Hero

If this guy is desperate to get married to you, then you can bet your bottom dollar his instinct to protect and defend you have been triggered.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

8) He Forgives Everything

A man desperate to get married is a man who can feel his age catching up to him.

He knows he doesn’t have the years in the tank to keep jumping from one girl to another; if he wants to build a family and a home with someone, he’s got to do it now.

And that means he’s going to do everything he can to keep his current relationship going, even if that means being much more forgiving than he should be.

So it doesn’t matter what you might do to him — chat with other “guy friends”, fight with him about his hobbies, or talk trash about him to your friends — he’ll still find a way to forgive you.

While this isn’t something you should take advantage of, it’s also something you need to think about.

Do you really want to be with a man who would compromise on his own values just so that he can get married? Is it really you he wants, or just a wedding?

9) He’s Planning His Life Around You

You’ve been on a few dates and you’ve had fun together, but it’s not anything more than that (at least for now).

So why does it seem like he’s already planning the rest of his life around the idea that he has to include you in it?

Nothing is a bigger sign of marriage desperation than that.

Maybe you want to live in another state or country; he’ll start talking about how he can move his career to that same area, and how there are several great companies he can join.

Maybe you don’t want kids and he does, or vice versa; he’ll start leaning towards your preference, and then say that he might be able to convince you otherwise in the future when you’re more “stable” together.

He no longer sees himself as just him. In his mind, it’s you and him, now and forever.

10) He Doesn’t Care About Staying Safe In Bed Anymore

Most couples are careful about getting pregnant.

The last thing you want is an unexpected, unplanned “accident” pregnancy.

But he’s more than happy to be completely wild with you in bed, with zero protection.

He’ll say it’s just because he wants to have the best sex with you possible, but you know in the back of your mind that it wouldn’t really bother him if you ended up pregnant.

He’s more than happy to baby-trap you into a marriage.

11) He’s Been Engaged In the Past

If you’re still unsure whether or not your man is marriage-hungry, ask yourself — has he been engaged in the past, or has he been in an extremely long-term relationship in the past?

If the answer is yes to either question, then he’s probably been hearing wedding bells in his head for years.

He’s already accepted the fact that he wants to get married, and he proved that with his previous relationship.

For one reason or another that relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean his desire to get married suddenly went away; now he’s just looking to put the ring on the right woman’s finger this time.

The right woman being you.

12) He’s Pushy About Getting Answers From You

It’s fine to ask questions and have normal conversations in a relationship; that’s to be expected.

But when it gets to the point that you start to feel like every conversation revolves around the same general theme — what are your plans for the future? — then it starts feeling a little off.

You can tell that a guy is desperate to get married if he wants to get your “soft Yes” almost from day one.

He’ll be locking you into soft commitments, talking about where you’ll spend your next summer and winter vacation together, about how you would feel about moving in with him, about all the decisions you make in life.

He wants to feel that you’re as committed as he is, even if the relationship is way too early to be at that stage.

Now if you’re feeling that your man actually isn’t desperate to get married, but you want him to get more desperate to commit to you over the long haul.

So the key here is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.

I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.